I think my next door neighbors are getting divorced. Actually, I am fairly positive they are getting divorced. She no longer wears a wedding ring, and she has purchased a new, separate house on her own, without him. They have three little children together, who are mostly well adjusted and lively kids. They seem to be doing okay financially, and only recently, have the Hubs and I noticed some random shouting and comments from each party, perhaps in the street, and a moving van in the drive way.
Is it just me? Or does news like this seriously make you depressed?
I mean, we never had any reason to think that they were less than happy, and all outward appearances would indicate that was so. We are neighborly, but not that close to this couple. Part of me is DYING to ask what happened. Not because I am trying to be nosy or a gossip or anything like that. But because I want to know if it was something unforgivable, another man, another woman, some other kind of horrible tragedy that would rip this family apart. At the same time, I also don't want to know. I don't know if I can bear hearing that two people fell so out of love that it just wasn't working anymore. That breaks my heart, and makes me a little afraid. I can't imagine something like that ever happening to my own marriage, but the fact alone that it happens scares me.
Obviously it happens more than I am personally aware of, I mean, the divorce rate in this country is somewhere around ridiculous. But I guess I am just a little bit in shock that two people that appear to be so close and together, and especially with little kids (even though I know that staying together for the kids is a whole separate trip to the therapists office) are really not that close and together, and can't stand to be with each other anymore.
It makes me think, and makes me thankful that I don't have that problem. That WE don't have that problem. Or problems, whatever the case may be. I know everyone is entitled to be happy, and I really hope that this move makes each of them happy in their own right. And we have no idea what is going on and has happened behind the scenes. I am so grateful to have a husband who I am so in tune with, who is so in tune with me, and neither of us would ever want this for our future.
Ok, now you can go throw up. Back to your regularly scheduled programming.
Absolutely not throwing up...and so happy that you and your husband are so in tune!
ReplyDeleteI think seeing others end their marriages puts me on edge, too. I just always wonder, "How do you throw it all away?" I'm not saying that anyone comes to the decision that easily, overnight and just scraps everything. But sometimes it seems that way. And as a girl who's headed to the altar, it freaks me out a bit.
But I will say that knowing my married girlfriends and you, Nellie and Shannon...all of whom have strong marriages...makes me feel a lot more secure with the whole marriage thing. But I won't say I don't get freaked when I see a marriage just end.
Btw: I'm totally the type who would want to know what ended it with my neighbors. I don't think it's snoopy...just human. :)